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Woman About Town

Relationship adventures

Lake Oswego’s Mary Bicknell puts drifting hearts on course

Story by Jillian Daley | Photography by Vern Uyetake

Dating and relationship woes are common, for as Gabriel Garća Seek out a man who wants the same things
■ Has he made peace with his family? It’s not a good sign if a man loathes his
Ḿrquez puts it: “nothing in this you do whether it’s kids, a home and marriage mom.
world was more dificult than
or a jet set life.
Bicknell also offers words of wisdom for
love.”
online dating.
One happily married Lake Oswego psy-
chotherapist guides women through the ■ Identify what you want and what’s a deal breaker. Don’t chat with someone who
labyrinthine realm of the heart, serving smokes if you can’t stand smoking, for ex-
as a “Relationship Tour Guide,” the name ample.
of her eBook, website and business. Mary ■ Listen to him carefully and ask him
Bicknell helps women ind love and im- prove their relationship.
about what he does on weekends. Avoid a man who complains.
“I want every single woman to be loved, ■ If he has potential, don’t talk for
honored and adored every day,” Bicknell months online, go meet him and see if
said.
there’s chemistry.
Finding love
■ Don’t make a production of the irst meeting; don’t even call it a date. Meet him
Bicknell shared tips for connecting with in a bookstore coffee shop at 2 o’clock on a
Mr. Right, just in time for Valentine’s Day.
For example, before pursuing a relation- Saturday.
ship, take a look inside. Unresolved issues ■ Once you meet him, don’t spend all
can hold you back.
of your time together; moving slowly can make the dating experience much richer.
“It’s best to come to a relationship when There are about 151 million males in the
we’ve worked on ourselves,” she said.
Seek out a man who wants the same United States, most of whom are older than
things you do whether it’s kids, a home and 20 and younger than 65, according to the
marriage or a jet set life. Envision all you U.S. Census Bureau.
As Bicknell’s website says: “He is waiting
want in a man, settling for nothing less.
for you! I am here to tell you, start dream-
Consider whether you’d be the right per- son for a man you like. If it doesn’t seem ing again! You CAN have the relationship
like an ideal match, do not try to change to you always dreamed of.”
suit him. Look elsewhere.
Fostering a relationship
When it comes to the love search, don’t A better relationship can start with one
speak negatively.
“Stop saying that stuff: ‘I can never ind person. “We must be conscious.of our be- Mary Bicknell, Relationship Tour Guide owner and modern-day Cupid, offers her women clientele straight talk and help with the love relationships in their lives.
a good man,’” Bicknell said. “Keep saying havior, of our communication and basical- ly, of who we are being in the relationship,” ■ What are his addictions (alcoholic, ■ Does he have any friends? You don’t
that to yourself and guess what you’ll ind.”
Bicknell said.
workaholic)?
want to be his sole emotional support.
Bicknell offers women questions they A woman may tell herself she doesn’t
■ Does he have any pets? If not, he may ■ What are his hobbies, and do you
ought to ind answers to before a irst date:
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